Content Note: Read Safely

This website is intense—by design.

Words and images are powerful. They can comfort, provoke, and heal—and sometimes they can hurt. Trauma-related content can bring up strong reactions, especially for people with lived experience of abuse or violence. Please take care while you read.

Why we use content warnings

Content (or “trigger”) warnings aren’t about coddling people; they’re about consent and choice. They come from trauma-informed practice and survivor communities to help people decide what they’re ready to engage with—and when.

If you’re a survivor

You are not alone. Many men in Australia—across all backgrounds, including gay, bi, trans, and gender-diverse men, and men who were harmed as children or adults—have experienced sexual assault or rape. This space is for you.

If you support a survivor

You might be a partner, family member, friend, colleague, or ally. You’ll find plain-language guidance on what helps, what harms, and how to walk alongside someone on their healing journey.

How to use this site safely

  • Go at your pace. Pause or step away any time.

  • Notice your body. If you feel overwhelmed, try a grounding exercise (name 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste) and breathe slowly.

  • Control what you see. Where available, use “Show/Hide” on sensitive sections and captions on images.

  • Quick exit. If you need to leave fast, use the Quick Exit button at the top of the page or close the tab.

  • You choose. There is no “should” here. Engage only with what serves you today.

Get help now (Australia)

  • Emergency: Call 000.

  • 1800RESPECT: Confidential 24/7 sexual assault, domestic & family violence support (phone or webchat).

  • SAMSN (Survivors & Mates Support Network): Peer-led support groups, workshops, and resources for male survivors and their supporters.

  • Blue Knot Foundation: Support for adult survivors of childhood trauma.

  • MensLine Australia: 24/7 telephone and online counselling for men.

  • Lifeline: 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention.

  • QLife: LGBTQ+ peer support and referral.

If you’re outside Australia, please check local services in your country or speak with your GP/health provider.

What this site is—and isn’t

  • Survivor-led and trauma-informed. Created from lived experience, with care and boundaries.

  • A safe storytelling space. Share your story only if and when you’re ready. You’ll find guidance on privacy, consent, and looking after yourself before and after writing.

  • Respect is non-negotiable. No victim-blaming, hate, or harassment. Moderation is active.

  • Not therapy or legal advice. We provide information and peer-support resources, not diagnosis or legal representation. We link to qualified services where appropriate.

Our purpose

We’re here to:

  • Support men impacted by sexual abuse and assault.

  • Inform the public to break stigma and silence.

  • Advocate for better services, justice, and community understanding.

If you’re here as a survivor: welcome. If you’re here as a supporter: thank you. Wherever you are on your path, take what helps, leave what doesn’t, and remember—healing is possible, and you set the pace.